I can not imagine the loss and grief Chrissy and John are feeling. They lost their baby, who they name Jack. To lose a child is just not the right order of life events.
When you are pregnant, the joys you feel nurturing the growing life inside of you is indescribable. You also feel associated pressure from being pregnant. You feel 100% responsible to keep your baby healthy and alive. I had a pregnancy scare with both kids and was put on bed rest. I remember trying to walk with my legs closed, thinking I could lose them any day. It’s stupid, I know, but somehow it gave me comfort.
The shocking truth is about 31% of pregnancies confirmed after implantation end in miscarriage. That translates to roughly one of every three pregnancies. What makes it worst, miscarriages are so painful emotionally, physically, and mentally. Along with all of that, moms feel they would be judged, so discuss it, it’s almost taboo. I appreciate Chrissy for always sharing candid moments about pregnancy, the good and bad, inspiring many expectant moms, moms, and soon-to-be moms along the way.
“We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we’ve never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn’t enough,” Chrissy wrote on IG.
She went on to express. “On this darkest of days, we will grieve, we will cry our eyes out. But we will hug and love each other harder and get through it.”
I had a few friends who experienced miscarriages and they were inconsolable at the moment. But with continuous love and support, they were able to live on. I wouldn’t say they overcame the loss, because how could you. Everyone processes emotions and pain differently. There’s no right or wrong in timelines or how you grieve. As friends and family, we must just be present when they need us.
I pray for Chrissy, John, their entire family, and for all who have lost their babies.
